I Told Her... But...

[BalloonAus]

Well for the first time in my life. I actually told someone about my thing for balloons. I had previously hidden it in relationships even with my ex of 5 years who I bought a house with.
My current gf we have strong communication and I thought it was the right time.
We have been together over a year but I waited.... Had her birthday last year, I used lots of balloons, I almost told her but then thought I would wait for my birthday hoping she would give me balloons and it would be a natural thing.... She didn't. I also used balloons at our 6 months, 1 year, valentines celebrations and it was at the point where she would say "balloons againnn" so it was right to tell her so she knew why
After her birthday last year I would go to her house with anxiety hoping she hadn't popped them yet. That went on for 3 months. I would offer to help clean them up but she wanted to keep them. Eventually in October she said it was time for them to go. I pretended to be trying to unite them and it was taking a long time and then in she came with scissors. It was hot!
Then my sister came over for her birthday and I put up balloons for that. I hurt my back and my gf came to help clean my place...
And out came the scissors again ��
Anyway now we had her 2nd birthday as a couple I filled her hallway
Then our 1 year together I got her about 10 foil heart helium balloons. I went to her house about a month later and they were gone she had cut them because she didn't know they could be reused. I was so sad I didn't get to see it.
Anyway last Saturday we were having a relationship chat in bed... And I told her the reason behind "balloons againnn"
She took it really well. I said I know it is different and weird and have no expectations of her participating but just wanted to know about that because we plan to move in together and she would find my boxes of balloons eventually.
We had a bit of a chat about it and she said she would be open to try it because she wants to make me feel pleasured. It was late and she fell asleep sort of mid conversation about it though.
Since then we haven't talked about it all. I thought she might have asked me more detail about it, what I like and what I do... But she hasn't said anything
I feel a bit awkward because I finally told someone and not sure how it will affect us. But at the same time feel good that I finally said it out loud to someone.
I am sort of hoping she would come to my place with a packet of balloons or a bunch of them and reassure me that everything is fine and she understands. But know she isn't like that
Yesterday I got about 40 helium balloons from marketplace and I really wanted to tell her hoping in return she would say something like "make sure you keep some for me to pop" but I didn't say anything and will probably clean them all up before she visits.
So I guess I am in a bit of a weird spot and it's a bit confusing because before I seperated everything from partners and had this secret and made sure there was no balloons around when I had someone over but I hope I don't get lazy and leave them around now and make her uncomfortable.
Guess I will see what happens but maybe she needs time to process so I will just go back to normal secret and wait until she mentions it

[Balloonpop_ks]

Re: I Told Her... But...

The last sentence is the go to. Let her a bit of time. If she brings it up by herself, it's the real deal. Give her some time. Maybe she will do some research about the fetish, wait what will happen.
After waiting and hiding it for such a long time, there's no need to hurry.

[Bass Boll]

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So she said she would be open to try it.

Before she slept in while you were talking – this means she was not upset or worried at all. And she had said she would be open to try it.

The first and probably most difficult step was a walkover! What are you worrying about then? Congratulations, man!

Agreeing to my fellow countryman: Just give her some time, then you may push it once more a little bit. Of course you won't overdo this, and an occasion for balloon play will naturally pop ... up.

[Markball]

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Good work on communicating! I am sure she wants to see you happy.

Go slow, don't bring out balloons every time you're intimate, not unless she brings it up. Make sure she feels special and things will work out.

Hopefully she does some googling and gets an idea about it and shows interest.

[Alan]

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You have absolutely nothing to worry about. There are no flags in her reaction. The fact that she fell asleep shows how it didn’t concern your gf. If however you start to make it an awkward situation, it will become one. So now just relax. And don’t please start pulling out the balloons constantly just because she is willing to try. Heck, even a looner would get tired 😂
All my exes and gf also non looner male and female friends know about my fetish and class it as a vanilla fetish. And these exes are sensible educated people. An ex of mine just qualified as a school teacher.. and it makes me laugh.. a friend of mine said, “what SHE loves stomping on balloons?? But she’s so innocent and sweet looking”. This teacher ex of mine still bursts balloons for me. She enjoys it more since I opened up about the fetish. Otherwise she loves bursting balloons anyway..

[PMN985]

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Have had to talk with both wives I have had, couple partners and girlfriends, only 1 out of the 9 or so since the 90s were open to it, had to learn the hard way a couple times not to go overboard. But most have been receptive even as a teen, when fetish stuff was new, I have ptsd so most of my playmates were intrigued that I enjoyed the noise whilst being intimate

[BalloonAus]

UPDATE! Well I have been lucky enough that she has tried it a few times now and its been fun! She has enjoyed adding something new into our bed routine. Happy I told her and it has been accepted. Now I also don't need to hide or throw away my balloons when she is coming over. I just leave them in my other bedroom and sometimes she will go in and bring some out, other times they stay in there for me to use next time. Before I told her, I had used a lot of balloons to decorate her place for her birthday. Since telling her, one day she bought the remaining ones over and knocked on my door with about 3 clusters of 4 and said they were in the way at her place and thought I might want them. They have been sitting there for almost 4 months now with some other I got from marketplace. She said that they are old now and I should throw them away. I told her that because they were from her birthday I find it hard to get rid of them. She said when she comes over next she is going to do it for me so I am looking forward to that!

[lucid]

Man I literally had butterflies in my stomach reading your 1st post haha. I was imagining it wasn't gonna go well because you had all these balloons around all the time and had her participate without cluing her in on the situation. I'm glad to hear it worked out for you tho man congratulations!
I definitely think you made the right choice in bringing it up again. If you look at it from her perspective, she probably wouldn't have mentioned it again because she knew it was a personal secret for you and may have felt she was pressuring you into talking about it again if you weren't ready.

what I'll say now may seem a bit controversial but it isn't my intention at all. But you should expect her to participate in your fetish with you. It seems like a big deal to us because it IS a big deal to us. But for a non looner, it's no different than flipping a light switch on and off. It isn't difficult, it isn't harmful and it isn't degrading to her. Therefore, there really isn't any reason she shouldn't at least try it. Seeing how a relationship involving a sexual partner is the one type of relationship where these things can be expressed.

I've noticed as well that the way you approach talking about your fetish will be mirrored by your partner. How you see it will be the exact way they see it. If someone acts as if its a big secret that they are ashamed of, they are likely not going to get a favorable or positive response. Whereas if the subject is approached with confidence or even humor then things are likely to go just fine. Even if someone doesn't have confidence, they should fake it until it becomes a reality. I'm saying all this mainly for the benefit of others who may find themselves in this situation. But I'm extremely happy for you man I'm glad things worked out for you. Keep us posted and congratulations again!

[Dust of the Saturn]

But you should expect her to participate in your fetish with you. It seems like a big deal to us because it IS a big deal to us. But for a non looner, it's no different than flipping a light switch on and off. It isn't difficult, it isn't harmful and it isn't degrading to her. Therefore, there really isn't any reason she shouldn't at least try it. Seeing how a relationship involving a sexual partner is the one type of relationship where these things can be expressed.

I agree 100% with this statement. I once thought the opposite, and that maybe I'm being too entitled by having such expectations...

You only live once and there are billions of humans on this planet. Keep searching and never settle for someone who isn't on the same rubbery page. At the end of the day, how hard is it? it's just balloons... we're giving ourselves a hard time for something so innocent, cheap, and kind of awesome actually.

[lucid]

You only live once and there are billions of humans on this planet. Keep searching and never settle for someone who isn't on the same rubbery page. At the end of the day, how hard is it? it's just balloons... we're giving ourselves a hard time for something so innocent, cheap, and kind of awesome actually.

Exactly! I think we should look at the situation by taking balloons out of the equation and putting the shoe on the other foot: Imagine your partner comes to you in a vulnerable position and confides in you one of their most hidden and intimate parts of themselves, something they may have NEVER trusted anybody enough to tell. Would you then proceed to respond with "eww no, not for me, not doing it"? We would have to be the biggest dickheads on the planet to give such a response right? Well we should hold our partners to the same standards we would hold ourselves. I've done some wacky things for some girls I've been with. I didn't get it, but I cared about them. I wanted to make them happy, so I did it. It wasn't a problem at all.

To build on what you said, we are only here for a limited time. We have the choice to make where this is concerned. We can either kill off a huge part of who we are to appease someone else who probably doesn't care about us as much as they claim, or, we don't settle and find the confidence and self love to find a partner who is good in these other areas but will also accept you for ALL of who you are. For me, it's not even about the balloons specifically at this point. Rather, if they can't be depended on to fill such a small request which would fill the essential needs of trust, validation, acceptance and happiness to a level far beyond the proportion of the request itself, how could they then be trusted with more critical matters? Rant complete lol.