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Old 03-01-2022, 09:05 PM
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Sounds like you need better friends. If you explained its a phobia and yet they still do it, are you sure they're the type of people you want to hang around with?
Oh I don't hang around with them anymore. They broke contact with me like 6+ years ago. I don't really hang around with people IRL anymore, I do have friends online and such that I completely trust with my phobia because they understand, even though some of them tease me about it sometimes, not maliciously of course just like playful teasing.
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Old 04-01-2022, 05:40 AM
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Hi,

I think it is all about what could be called decent behaviour. There are times where it is simply not appropriate to pop balloons. Those are situations where it would not be appropriate to draw attention away from the context so to speak. Also if there are phobic people around (that you know of or spot during the 'process') it would not be approate to pop a balloon. It is much more a matter of the situation - or context - whether or not it will be 'ok' - not really due to the physical place.
Why should it be a problem during a concert? Well, if it was at a classic concert in the Royal Opera it would not be a good idea, but at a rock concert where people are batting around balloons anyway I see no problem in making a balloon go bang. In a crowded train? That depends on what is meant by a crowded train. If people are packed like sardines in a can it would not really be such agreat idea, but in a train where all seats are occupied and not much more I think it would not be so bad. I have actually done it myself together with a freind of mine - and actually not just one balloon, - it was several. We were simply two silly girls who got the idea to blow up some balloons to see how big they would get before they popped. I must say that we enjoyed the attention and also making people cringe. Quite some people laughed btw - and some even cheered us on. You might say that such things would be cruel in case a phobic happened to be around, but this is something I have also experienced myself - with me being the phobic one. Two girls on the seat opposite where I was sitting (with my mother) had an airship balloon that they blew up and then let the air out - then blew it up again. At some point one of them kept blowing until the balloon popped. At the time it was not in any way a pleasant experience as you can well imaibine, but today it is a treasured memory that I definitely would not have been without.
Of course there are places where most people would say it would be completely out of the question to pop a balloon, but I still claim that it is up to the context. What about in a church? If it was during a church event I certainly agree it would be highly inappropriate (as would any other act drawing attention away like talking to others during the blessing or preech - not to mention a funeral!). The context requires respect for what is going on, and one should not disturb. However going into an empty church to test the 'echo' - well, maybe that would not be quite as inappropriate. The same can be said about a public library - it very much depends on the context.
In a shopping mall? If it might draw the attention of the police? Again it is up to the situation. If there are balloons around anyway for decorations and such I don't think it would be so bad. Afterall a balloon from the decoration might pop by itself and also draw attention. It is of course a problem that some crazy people in the USA have started shooting random people. I would never pop a balloon in an American shopping mall or actually most other public places, because people might think that a shooting was going on, but in Denmark where I live - and especially away from the capital it would not be a problem at all.

I see it a bit like this. Whereever it is ok to draw attention away from what is going on it is also not such a big problem to pop a balloon. It is just one of many things that draw such attention.

About showing off and making people cringe I think it deserves a thread of its own.

Well, I guess I just put my hands into a hornets nest, but anyway thank you for reading my posting.

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Old 04-01-2022, 02:31 PM
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I feel like this is the kind of thing that you can discuss until your blue in the face but I don't think that most people will never come to an agreement, mostly because I don't think there is an actual answer to this topic that leaves not all but most people happy. I don't wanna deprive people from having fun with their balloons and such and personally the idea itself of popping in public I find really fun. on the other hand I don't wanna feel like I should have to walk around with my guard up at all times because at any minute someone can decide to just let lose and pop balloons if they are around, because the fact is that while my brain does work interestingly when balloons are being popped it reacts very differently at different times. If I'm feeling overwhelmed and scared I might just walk/jog away or I will full on run away and lock myself in the nearest bathroom and cry because I can't handle it. It can actually be so bad that it leaves me physically incapable of doing things for the next few hours. The truth of the matter is that while we who are on here might stop if we see that someone is reacting negatively the majority of the public wont notice or if they notice they really wont care because it's not something that is leaving a negative impact on their day and like it or not at the core a lot of people don't really care as long as their day isn't being ruined.

but yeah it's a difficult question for me personally but that is only because my pop phobia can inhibit me really really badly. Would I love to be comfortable with balloons popping? heck yeah! I hate feeling like this at times. Will I ever be comfortable with them popping most likely not.
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I think if you are a looner and are aware about phobics, you'd have to read the room. If anyone looks really stressed, stop. Most people wouldn't care much. Some may find it annoying and a small few might hate it. I have an autistic friend that although doesn't have a phobia (as far am I'm aware) they hate sudden loud noises. I can tell from the way they react. I know the signs from personal experience. If you can't physically get away, it's like a nightmare you can't escape from. You could literally be torturing someone without knowing it. (And no, that's not an exaggeration. I would personally prefer physical pain over the mental torture of someone doing that on a train)
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Old 04-01-2022, 03:48 PM
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I think if you are a looner and are aware about phobics, you'd have to read the room. If anyone looks really stressed, stop. Most people wouldn't care much. Some may find it annoying and a small few might hate it. I have an autistic friend that although doesn't have a phobia (as far am I'm aware) they hate sudden loud noises. I can tell from the way they react. I know the signs from personal experience. If you can't physically get away, it's like a nightmare you can't escape from. You could literally be torturing someone without knowing it. (And no, that's not an exaggeration. I would personally prefer physical pain over the mental torture of someone doing that on a train)
Oh absolutely, Physical pain I can handle pretty well, the mental anguish I feel from balloons popping most of the time I just can't handle
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Old 04-01-2022, 10:16 PM
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I don't worry about phobics, usually they remove themselves once they realize balloons are going to pop. If someone asks me to not pop balloons, I won't, and I won't tease. I do worry about being mistaken for gunfire, unless there are lots of balloons around.

Otherwise, I think it is fair game to pop balloons and encourage other people to do so.
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Old 04-01-2022, 10:19 PM
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I won't pop balloons while out and about and haven't done any fetish play outdoors. If I had a big lot of land where no one would see it'd be fun to toss balloons at thorny bushes, but I tend to keep that stuff indoors when no one else is home.
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Anywhere in the USA is a bad idea. Pop a balloon and everyone's going to think a gun went off. Pop several balloons and everyone's going to think it's a mass shooter. I mean it happens practically every day....
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Old 05-01-2022, 07:36 AM
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I think generally unless the situation is one which calls for popping them, then we should generally not pop balloons intentionally because it might ruin some1's day or work e.g. Some1 had decorated the place with balloons as part of an event and if u popped some of it early, then u spoil the decoration for the rest of the event. This could really suck especially if there are people who wanted to take some pictures of the decorations and scenery. Sure, of course sometimes malfunctions happen, but u shouldn't be like at some1's party and then go around purposefully popping balloons without the consent of the host and every1 else. Thats just rude and I really hated it when I was working for my local party store because that ruined all of the effort that me and every1 else had put in, and sometimes left like a gaping hope that we needed to figure out how to patch over.

As for the public situations thing, I believe that the popping of balloons in that setting tends to be in the form of games, competitions, or balloon drops. For example in carnivals u might have booths where people compete to see if they can BTP a balloon using a weighed pump, or a stage where participants try to sit pop their balloons. Basically situations where its super obvious what every1 should be trying to do, altho granted in balloon drops sometimes people are split between those who want to pop vs those who want to keep the balloons.
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Old 05-01-2022, 08:35 PM
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Yeah it kind of defies usual categories of social behavior.

Like, there are a lot of loud noises that also are created by dangerous activities (firing a gun, lighting off a firecracker) and these things are very carefully socially policed because of the actual dangers they pose to people around them -- not because of the noise. But balloons make the loudest noise that people can *safely* make in everyday situations, so whatever social pressures exist in this category are related to sound and startle only, and not to actual physical danger.

Most people, in my experience, are completely unaware that balloon pop phobia exists. Or if they are, they don't believe phobias are a big deal. "Most" people generally don't consider a balloon pop noise to be a very significant thing worthy of their attention... and yet, I do think there is a hidden social code here that I'd love to unravel.
I totally agree with this
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