I've heard alot of people mention how they used to feel ashamed of their fetish but with time they got over it. Sometimes after playing around with balloons for a while and having my fun, I feel happy and it puts me in a good mood which feels nice. Sometimes however, I feel uneasy and saddened with myself. I think it's just that part of me that feels like "this is wrong/unnatural" but I don't fully understand why I feel that way afterwards and almost never before or during. I can be around balloons all day and not have a problem because I'm not engaging with them in a sexual manner so it's easy to not think of them that way. I don't know why I feel the way I do. Is there a way to get over that feeling? Am I doing something wrong? I mean, I never really masturbate and it's very rare I climax with balloons. I'm not really a sexual person to begin with anyhow so maybe it stems from that? I don't know. Maybe I'm just doing something wrong
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All through my teens and well into my 20s I used to feel ashamed/guilty after having balloon fun. It was because I had this ingrained feeling that what I was doing was somehow wrong and I wasnt normal for doing it.
What started to change my mind was realising that almost everyone has a fetish. I have a friend who is very open about his foot and shoe fetish and although I never told him about the balloons, just talking to him about his kink made things feel different. Most people hide their fetishes, but most fetishes are completely harmless. Ours especially is harmless.
What you do and feel for balloons hurts no one. Balloons are the best fetish in the world (I believe anyway haha). I'm happy to chat privately if you would like that. -
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Don't think too much about it. Unless you plan to share this with your partner/friend then that's another story. Think of this as your happy place. I have even made up several excuses such as "I'm a balloon collector" or "I like colours" for people who find my stash.Comment
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I have balloons around all the time. No one ever makes the sexual connection other than my wife, who of course has known all about it since soon after we started dating. I'm just the guy who likes balloons. A co-worker even gave me a copy of "Harvey Potter's Balloon Farm" as a gift.
We fear people making connections that they aren't going to make absent some more obvious clue. For the most part, people pretty much ignore balloons.Comment
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I don't think I've ever felt bad with my balloons. But that's because I tend to acknowledge who I am and just enjoy what I enjoy. Of course, the stuff I do with balloons feels "interesting" to me, so I never express my desires outside of those that aren't familiar nor do I share experiences to those outside communities such as this website.Comment
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Excellent comments!!!!. I agree with all of you. I have been interested and played with balloons for the past 59 years and have never been ashamed of my enjoyment in inflating big helium balloons as often as possible. My wonderful wife is has know of my balloon fetish since we meet many years ago. If balloons make you happy, that is what is most important and never be ashamed of something that make you happy. Enjoy !!!!Comment
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I think it stems from how open you are with sexual topics and fetishes in general. Less people are into "Balloon fetish" versus more popular fetishes (leather, latex/pvc clothing, foot, shoes, etc.). So depending on your audience, you're going to get different reactions. That's just life. You can't control others, but you can control how you feel about yourself.
I'm not open about my balloon fetish; but I do open up and tell sexual partners after I realize it's more than a casual relationship. I'm not as open about my balloon fetish as I'd like to be sometimes. I'm sure it stems from that I don't want to be made fun of, joked about, or just strange looks and questioning like something is wrong. I know how I developed my fetish. Unknowingly, I used my sexual drive to get over fear of loud noises (popping balloons, fireworks, firecrackers, etc.).
People are going to judge and comment about others. I don't want expose myself unnecessarily to others judgement. I do have an admiration for people who are very open about their sexuality and fetishes. Kudos to those people! That's healthy self confidence.
Don't feel bad about yourself for having a balloon fetish. Enjoy it.Comment
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Here's the problem with that in India. People like to stick their nose into your business, so with the case of balloons, if your gf/wife/partner has not called you a child then someone else will. And then they will tease you, it therefore becomes imperative that you have to find one simple excuse for others and a real story for a person who can understand you.Comment
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There's a lot of that in the US, too. But the majority of people, at least here, don't even really notice balloons. Although I guess it helped that I was working in a creative field, where people are more tolerant of unusual interests, mostly because so many have unusual interests of their own.
And only my wife and a few ex-girlfriends know the real story, and none has ever given me grief over it.Comment
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I tried to block balloons out of my life and "starved" myself of any balloon activity in my early 20s. When I bought my first computer and got connected online, that all changed. Finding out that I wasn't the only one into balloons and inflatables led me to buying balloons and playing with them whenever I could and here I am today.Comment
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This fetish is vanilla according to my friends both male and female. My family accept it. And as long as fetishes are kept between consenting adults as we are older, you should not feel bad at all. If this helps: (a friend of mine and my ex-wife) burst our wedding anniversary balloons in a way I like (bare feet). It was sn old Victorian venue and the ceilings were high. The bangs set off my childhood phobia and I was turned on. She had just finished her final exam to become a school teacher, and she was quite evil to the balloons making them cry and squeal with her sticky feet.
This was the day after the anniversary party and my wife was working late, so me and our friend Millie went to tidy the venue before handing the keys back.
This was 2018. Fast forward now, Millie said she would love to burst more balloons for me and she said “it’s more sophisticated than just watching porn hihi, I like that it’s so innocent but you love recording me bursting balloons and I love it too, I’m a bit of a perv too”. This helped me a lot, and the support I’ve had from non-looners! I hope you will feel some insight after reading this and stop feeling guilty, because you’re not going to get rid of this fetish as much as you can’t convince yourself to be bisexual if you’re dead set heterosexual ��
Pm me if you’d like a personal chat and support!Last edited by Alan; 16-09-2023, 09:13.Comment
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I always felt ashamed, when I met and eventually told my partner, whom I'm with now did I feel better about it. I eventually told her about being a looner. Also I discovered this forum which also helped me. Basically I knew I wasn't alone. and what I do on my own or with my girlfriend behind closed doors doesn't hurt or effect anyone negatively I stopped beating my self up about who or what I am.Comment
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Unfortunately I'm not over my feelings of shame yet. A lot of people in my generation still make DeviantArt jokes and they always make me uncomfortable because I'm pretty sure they're laughing AT fetishists, not WITH them. It doesn't help that I also have a body inflation fetish and people would probably assume I'm a chaser if they learned that about me.*notices bulge*Comment
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