Many other female looners?

[b0f0s0f]

Re: Many other female looners?

...However it seems to me that I look upon things a different way, and most guys seem to quickly lose interest in me, because I am more into emotional stuff and less into the more 'technical' issues. To me the technical part - what kind of balloons, favorite way to pop them, which brand is better etc etc. - is rather quickly is done with...

Also when I share things with guys it is often so, that I write almost a novel, and the response is a short note - well, I guess that just one of those things.

I don't know if that's as much of a male/female thing, I'm a guy and I feel pretty much the same way. My theory is that it's much easier to talk about those so-called "technical" details because of how concrete and defined they are, whereas the emotional side of things is more complicated and difficult to convey. The "technical" details are also physical and objective, whereas the emotional side of things is mental and subjective.

As a result, you see the conversation flow much more easily around such topics, so you end up with a majority of it. For this reason I lurk a lot more than I post, since only some of the topics are aligned with what I want to talk about most.

Also, I know a lot of the replies tend to be short but I (and I'm sure many others here) really appreciate the depth of your posts, you do a very good job to describe the difficult emotional side of things I referred to earlier and I always enjoy reading them.

I know I'm straight up not good enough at writing about such things to be on that level, so that's one thing that makes it harder, I think many cultures encourage men to bottle their emotions up and then we have to re-learn how to let them free again.

[blowhyoooge]

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not surprised that many female looners keep quiet. i like the role playing and "cybersex" aspect of it, a form of exhibitionism i suppose, but i don't share pics/videos, and i get a little tired of saying no.

[Kiltieman]

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A fascinating post by Susie and a very in depth summary of how the fetish can control our lives. I started as a boy by being terrified of balloons but without going into every aspect of that period suffice it to say that I got curious and eventually tried blowing balloons up in private when in my teens. I had the usual setbacks. Accidental bangs and the feelings that went with that. I also found in this phase that I was fascinated by girls blowing balloons up. Not in a sexual way but as I say it was a fascination. I loved the way girls handled balloons. Maybe it was the maternal and more gentle thing that females have in my opinion but the sight of a girl blowing a balloon up really tight then tieing it off and patting it around or just holding it in a natural way was what fascinated me. Seeing a girl blowing balloons up in say a shop for a display would stop me in my tracks and I would pretend to be staring at something else but the corner of my eye was on the balloon and the girl. I love the feel of balloons blown up to the limit and thats the only way I can do it which is odd and I dont understand it because it was the bang when they burst that first scared the wits out of me as a boy. I have never really corresponded with a girl about balloons because I always think that it will be taken the wrong way. Probably I am misjudging the female looner population out there but its just how I feel about it. I am always happy to discuss thee fetish with anyone but thats my little story and my view about it. I think there are lots of female looners out there but they just probably, like me , keep it to themselves a lot.

[Linda]

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Female looner here!
Although I'm into the fetish since puberty and knew about this forum for more than 2 years, I joined in just today.
The reasons don't actually revolve around being a girl... They were a mix of embarassment and fear that my friends are gonna discover it...
So we might indeed be less...

[Barcelona33]

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Female looner here!
Although I'm into the fetish since puberty and knew about this forum for more than 2 years, I joined in just today.
The reasons don't actually revolve around being a girl... They were a mix of embarassment and fear that my friends are gonna discover it...
So we might indeed be less...

Maybe I'm very wrong and I need someone to correct me in what I think or how I see these things, but is not it much easier or normal for a girl to be a looner? that is to say it depends on what you do in it, but it does not seem so strange to me that a girl has balloons with her, or I find it much stranger in a boy.

[loonlover817]

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I think it is great that girls are experimenting with balloons. I wish more girls would explore the balloon fetish. It is such a fun/interesting thing? So what was your like most embarrassing moment as a looner?

[shyguy]

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im 28 years now. and i havent found one female looner yet small country maybe thats the problem..

[BalloonBoyUK]

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Hi. An excellent post by SusieDK, and she makes a lot of valid points. I, therefore apologise in advance to most of the men, who may now find what I'm about to say dull, or irrelevant, or way-too-long.

Ladies, feel free to read-on, as like Susie, I can't really do short-and-pithy internet posts.

The problem with the internet is that - almost every site, with a few, female-centric exceptions - will be predominantly have a male/male-heavy membership. Whilst I may be generalising here, I think what I'm about to say is accurate...

...Men love tech. Men love to share experiences, brag, talk about stuff online, with other men. Men love to share stuff with each other. Men love talking about sex, having sex, and discussing everything they've done sexually. When you combine tech, bragging/discussion/debate and sex, you've basically created a nirvana for most men. I'm not saying that's fair or right, but it is a fact.

Women don't openly discuss sexual stuff, except with other friends (of either gender), and don't tend to discuss this stuff online, with random strangers. Men, on the other hand, don't care who reads what they're saying/writing. Women, however, DO care.

Despite myself being a heterosexual male, like Susie, I don't care too much about the technical side of the fetish. I know what balloon brands I like (one), and I have a preferred size as well (mostly 36"/3ft ones), and a preference for yellow. But other than that, I'm simply not that fussed about the technical stuff. I'll read about it, but I won't - for the most part - post about it.

I'm also a strict non-popper: I simply don't like seeing, hearing or knowing a balloon has been popped, as to my mind, that's a balloon that's been needlessly wasted. However, I know that comment will shock or even make angry many poppers. As a non-popper, I don't care what you do to burst a balloon, or see one being burst. Thus, I have no interest in hearing all of the different ways that men (and some women) enjoy doing this act.

Plus, as a non-popper, I don't neck or overinflate balloons either: partly because I'm very scared of daring to try to do this, and partly because I'm terrified that if I attempt to do so, the balloon will pop. So, that makes me quite a dull balloon-fetishist, with little to say.

One other major difference between me, and most other men: I'm not into hardcore sexual material. Anything, other than the mildest of mild sexy-material (Playboy-style or Pin-Up cheekiness) leaves me cold. I don't find seeing a women splaying her genitalia, and faking interest in balloons remotely interesting. In fact, I find it agonisingly dull! It's fake, and it's not stimulating to me - either sexually or mentally. So, much balloon-fetish material online doesn't appeal to me. For most men, the merest hint of a woman doing something remotely sexual or naughty with a balloon, is what makes them enjoy the internet so much.

Not for me, though. I'm more like Susie: I'm more into debating and the emotional stuff. I want to not just be physically turned-on, but mentally and emotionally too! I want to read people's experiences, not just short, one-sentence answers to posts, where the answers fall into a yes/no response.

I know I'm generalising, and - men - please forgive me. I'm absolutely NOT trying to pigeonhole any of you, no matter whether you're gay, straight, bi, trans, or whatever. Honest! None of that makes any difference in the grand scheme of my interest in other people's love with balloons.

One final thing, and again, I'm generalising here, but it's based on my life-experiences. I find many (though by no means all) men tend to talk at you, whilst women (again, most, though by no means all) talk to you. There's a huge difference, and that's often more apparent online, as well as in groups of men who socialise in real-life.

Anyway, I hope what I've said doesn't stir-up too many issues for anyone, regardless of your gender. I'm not trying to cause any affront to anyone.

Thanks for reading this far if indeed you have.

[LoudPop]

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Being a female looner can be a lonely experience. But I still love being able to come here and read other's thoughts, perspectives and experiences.

I think just having a balloon fetish can be a lonely experience in general.

For me, I was phobic of balloons popping and loud popping noises in general (fireworks, firecrackers, etc.) as a kid. So, I didn't want anyone to know about it or be made fun of etc.; of course my parents/family knew but I was embarrassed that they even knew much less others. I decided to get over the "fear" and that phase transitioned into the fetish. My ex-wife and current GF would and will participate in balloon play. I have to initiate the "sessions". Honestly, it's always been lonely and somewhat frustrating. I mean when you think about, how much work is it for a significant other to support their partner's balloon fetish. (I'm not expecting everyday or every intimate moment.) Some spontaneous balloon play, popping, texting, etc. would really add to the excitement and "connecting" between two people. Of course, my ex-wife and GF could probably say the same about me in ways. Lol

I've always wondered what it would be like to be in a relationship with another looner. (All things being equal and that we were a match outside of the balloon aspect.) Can you imagine being able to share in this? You could tease and turn-on your partner while at the same time experiencing the same turn-ons.

Even, if roles were reversed and I was not a looner but she was. I think I'd be blowing up balloons and popping them all the time to just excite her.

I'd love to hear others thoughts???

[BalloonBoyUK]

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Loudpop,

I think the issue, is the way you're looking at what it means to having a fetish.

For men, having a fetish is a big deal. It can be all-consuming for many (myself included), and thus, we men tend to put an awful lot into it. We think about it a lot; we spend a lot of money on it; we indulge in it whenever we can, and often indulge in it heavily.

Ladies, for the most part, don't. Like most things, women don't tend to indulge in their fetishes as heavily as men do. I can't say why, but maybe it's a genetics thing. It's much like hobbies: how many women do you know, who would spend all afternoon, cataloguing their Vinyl or DVD collection, and getting it all neat, and in order?

Most women would buy a few records or films, and that'd be enough. Us men, on the other hand, can never have enough. We often fill entire rooms with our collections, until they become impossible to contain, and then rather than downsizing the collection, we look for bigger premises in which to house it all!

P.S. I didn't come-up with this analogy. Thank Mackenzie Crook, the British comedy-actor from DETECTORISTS, as it's his idea, just in case anyone thinks I was stealing the concept!

[SusieDK]

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I'd love to hear others thoughts???

Hi there,

My husband is not into balloons, meaning I am in sort of the opposite situation - at least ‘gender-wise’.
My husband accepts and respects how I feel about balloons for which I am very happy. He does not understand the way I feel, but how could he? I hardly understand it myself. Now and then he goes along, but he does not do it by himself; I always have to sort of hint about it. It would of course be easier for me if he did it all by himself, but I also realize that this with balloons is my thing, and also that it must fell somewhat strange to him to suggest playing with balloons. I guess it also conflicts some with the male ego. I think he initialt feels somewhat silly by blowing up balloons, but when things first get started he seems to completely forget about this.

I don’t feel it so difficult to have to take initiative when it comes to balloons, because I never have to pester him about it or in any way beg. A hint is all that is necessary. Sometimes I can actually get him to kind of suggest it by himself, - I just act a bit apprehensive when he is in the mood for ‘something’, and he very often ‘presses my turn-on-button’.
I feel this hinting and little trickery as being part of the ‘game’ of love, and it definitely does not represent a problem for me - and luckily not for my husband either. It is not only so that I need him to respect me the way I am, it works both ways; I respect him the way he is as well.

Of course I have toyed with the idea of him being into balloons as well, but I have come to the conclusion that I am happy with things as they are. Both of us being into balloons would quite likely lead to balloons taking up too much spare in love-life and risk making it less diverse and exciting in a longer perspective.

All in all it is not easy to describe these matters, because it is all about feelings. However this is the best I could come up with.

Thank you for reading my view on the issue.

Sincerely
Susie

[LoonerPlanet]

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I can only speak for myself on this topic.

My wife is not into balloons (not surprising given the statistics), so it poses the usual dilemma. She is much more cerebral about sex. Her "turn on" button can be pushed by a sexy thought, such as a story about someone having anonymous sex or multiple partners. Or it can be watching an erotic scene in a movie. She doesn't want to do whatever she heard or saw, but it gets her into the mood. Sometimes, she'll tease me about balloons. Again, it doesn't mean she wants balloons in the bedroom.

If it was up to me, it would probably be: balloons, balloons, balloons, something else, balloons, balloons.... That wouldn't work for my wife. She wants it to be about her, and that makes sense.

So, I live in two worlds. One with my wife and the other is "alone time" with balloons. It is not ideal and a strain on the marriage, but I guess all marriages include some compromise. It is certainly better than going to a prostitute or spending lots of money on porn.

For the same reasons, I suspect that most of my posts are on the technical side of balloons. If my emotions belong to my marriage, what is my alone time? Is it just the same thing as a 17-year-old masturbating in their room? Just an animal rather than bonding with a human being?

[Born2popUK]

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Wow some really good points covered so far.
I’m male and been a loner since a very early age. When I met my now wife she wasn’t into it but after she surprised me one day with loads of balloons she has gotten into it and really gets turned on whenever we have a balloon session.
As much as I am lucky to be in this situation it would be great if there was more female loners to talk to, to understand what sort of things they like and to share story’s.
sadly though the typical internet chatting and people taking things too far spoils it for the few.

[HeaveToo]

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There are many good points in this post.

My experience is that I have been married twice. My ex-wife was not into balloons but she would do stuff for me. She had a nice wild side and when the marriage was good things were a lot of fun. In the end, the marriage went south and so did the sex life. I think that since she was the first person I opened up to about my fetish and she willing went along with it I may have overwhelmed her some. She didn't communicate her needs either, so that didn't help with the situation.

My wife that I have now participates once in a while. She is not as experimental as my ex-wife and she loathes popping. My wife is very good about communication and we talk through things.

If both people were into balloons it could cause difficulties. You have to share other common ground in the relationship because relationships aren't just about sex. Part of me feels that having the fetish does cause some issues with relationships because it can cause a strain on things. Both people need things and their needs need to be met. The hard part is making sure things balance out.

[Tracy]

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Loudpop,

I think the issue, is the way you're looking at what it means to having a fetish.

For men, having a fetish is a big deal....

Ladies, for the most part, don't. Like most things, women don't tend to indulge in their fetishes as heavily as men do...

Not quite sure about the "like most things" line, but based on 20+ years of watching balloon commentary by an awful lot of guys and a few women (as well as my own perspective), I think it's pretty clear that we mostly do not have fetishes in the sense that guys do. I love balloon time, love having that fun... but the intensity of the emotion seems pretty small compared to what I see from many of the men here.

But yes, we are here. And yes, mostly quiet just because the internet is what it is.