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Old 03-01-2018, 07:04 PM
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While I think this forum talks a lot about telling a romantic partner about the fetish, I'm curious about looners that tell their family and friends about their fetish. For me personally, I don't think I'd ever be able to tell most of my friends and especially my family because I'd be terrified of awkward situations that would happen at birthday parties or concerts or just walking down the street. I'd love to hear from looners have have come out to other people and it affected their relationship with them.
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Old 03-01-2018, 10:12 PM
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I’ve told 5 friends, I felt that I needed to tell them. Not out of a “here’s what I’m into” motivation, rather I felt this fetish was a negative aspect of my life and something that I wanted to bring into the light. My legs were shaking as I told them, it wasn’t easy but they were nothing but respectful. They didn’t know it was a thing, didn’t really ask questions, but listened. I still have deep friendships with them all and have never been ridiculed. Over the years, we have all shared deeply personal details and it’s only strengthened our friendships.
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Old 04-01-2018, 12:36 AM
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Whilst I never came out an confessed all to my parents early on in life- despite their best efforts of giving us the Spainish Inquesition treatment. A few close friends found out what my missus and I get up to later on.
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Old 04-01-2018, 04:16 AM
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I've never understood why people feel the need to openly tell other people about their sexual preferences - to me, it's something that you should keep between you and a partner (or places such as dedication forums, like this one). I support that people should freely indulge in their fetishes, but I know if one of my friends came up to me and said something along the lines of "I like to get myself off with xxxxxx object", my reaction would be WTF?! Why did I need to know that?
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Old 04-01-2018, 08:50 AM
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I've never understood why people feel the need to openly tell other people about their sexual preferences - to me, it's something that you should keep between you and a partner (or places such as dedication forums, like this one). I support that people should freely indulge in their fetishes, but I know if one of my friends came up to me and said something along the lines of "I like to get myself off with xxxxxx object", my reaction would be WTF?! Why did I need to know that?
I feel the exact same way. In 'real world' sexual matters belong to the private sphere as far as I see it. However what others feel they need to do is perfectly ok with me as long as they respect that I don't.

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Old 04-01-2018, 10:31 AM
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I haven't told anyone at all about my fetish, and honestly I like to keep it that way because, like many of us on here, I don't feel the need to openly express my sexuality to others - it's none of their business. I don't recall any family or friends coming up to me and having a full blown disclosure about what they are into.

Of course, the discussion would occur in a romantic relationship, but I feel that's as far as it needs to go. Everyone should be able to enjoy whatever they feel is right, but certainly it's a private and individual/couple endeavour
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Old 04-01-2018, 05:11 PM
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I certainly don't come out to just anybody...I am VERY careful with whome i tell...only a select few of my friends know of my actual loon fetish...that being said, those ive told have always reacted with positive curiosity & fascination. I mean compared to the stuff thats out there, this stuff is pretty tame...plus my friends are quite open minded. But i can say for a fact that im still definitely open about my love for balloons in general. My regular circle of friends just thinks i have an unnatural love & obsession with balloons & balloon stuff to which they all find cute, charming & harmless
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Old 04-01-2018, 08:33 PM
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Wow, I'm surprised people are so divided on this issue. I guess I'm inclined to tell some of my friends about the fetish because it is such a big part of my life, and I feel like if I come out to at least a few of them then I won't judge myself for being a sexual freak anymore.
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Old 07-01-2018, 01:12 PM
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A fetish is something personal. In my opinion family doesn't need to know about other family members' sexual interests.

Telling friends is slightly different. I guess it depends on the kind of person you are. If you only have sex within a relationship, than I guess it is only useful to tell your partner about it. When you are more easy going and have more than one sex partner, than please be more open about it and tell your friends about it, so that you can profit from it.

Also as some others suggested, copy what others say/do. Do your friends tell about their sexual pleasures? Tell them yours! Don't you want to hear theirs? Most likely they are also not interested in yours.
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Old 07-01-2018, 07:26 PM
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I keep my fetish to myself. Some of my friends know I like balloons, but not in a fetishy way. They all think it's a cute thing - I assume it's easier for girls than guys, so, apologies, guys - I feel your pain.

Sexually, my partners with whom I've shared my balloon desires with have been open about their kinky sides and there's a mutual understanding that we won't share each other's interests

I would never want my casual friends, co workers or family to know what makes me horny. It's just not in my make up. For me there's no purpose in doing that.

That's my side of things!
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