Hello everyone!
I already posted this elsewhere, but I thought it was worth sharing it here.
This is a true story that happened to me this year.
Just over four months ago, I met this girl online. I got to know her better over time and I went on a date with her eventually! All went well, luckily.
As weeks went by, we found ourselves, one night, talking about our 'exotic interests' on WhatsApp. I was hesitant at first to even talk about my fetish, so I tried to make subtle moves towards it, sometimes using a balloon emoticon and such. I eventually told her that there is a 'funny story behind that balloon', but I wasn't going to tell her until I would meet her again.
Then, out of the blue, she said: 'You have a balloon fetish'. I instantly felt my nerves getting to me and my hands really began to shake when she said that. I mean, she wasn't even serious about what she said, but only said it as a joke. I admitted eventually that I have a balloon fetish and I said she can block me if she wanted to. But rather, she was asking questions about it! ''How does it work? How do you view balloons? Do you pop them or something? What else do you do with them?'' I happily answered all her questions.
Eventually I asked her first reaction. She replied: ''Well, I have never even known anyone with a (balloon) fetish before, but neither do I see why that would make you less interesting. If you want to lie in a pile of balloons, then why don't you do that? I'd be happy to blow some balloons up for you!''
Right after she said that, I instantly felt the biggest relief I had had in a long time. My hands weren't shaking anymore and also instantly my love for her reached heights I have never had with any other girl I met in my life. We are now planning a date when no one's home here, so she can come over and have some loony fun with me!
For the first time in my life, I have found someone whom I feel comfortable with talking about my fetish. But what really made me fall in love with her even more, besides her personality, is because she is interested in my fetish.
I now am really confident, I found someone whom I can trustfully share my life with.
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Really, telling her was the hardest thing you can imagine. I am the type of person who is very much in the metal music scene and such. So is she. So would you expect a fetish like this from someone like me? I mean, the last thing you would expect from a person like myself, is that I would have a balloon fetish. I listen to the darkest shit there's out there, like doom metal, black metal, thrash metal, etc. And from all the carnage of goat's blood and guitar shredding, there's long-haired me with a balloon fetish. I began to accept myself for who I am, but would anyone be willing to accept me for who I am? I always thought no. Turns out, I have never been more wrong in my entire life. She actually said my fetish is kinda cool and she doesn't think it makes me weird at all, only more fun!
So, for those males among us in this community, I really wanted to share this story! Actually telling her that you have a balloon fetish will make you feel uneasy about things at first. Thoughts racing through your mind, such as that she will break up with you and tell everyone about how weird you are. I was always really scared that would happen.
But in the end, what matters even more is that you're being honest with her, that you're being honest about how you feel and that you're being honest about how you feel with her. Just ask her to come over or just ask her to have a moment to talk with you.
Of course, the possibility will always be there for some women to be creeped out by your fetish and will even choose leave you. When that happens? So be it. Trust me, being with someone who is not prepared to live with how you feel about stuff (i.e. your fetish) will never end up in a well functioning relationship. At least, not when you're already acquainted with her for some time, because you can't just walk up to a girl and be like: 'Hey, this is crazy and I just met you and all, but I have a balloon fetish and I was wondering if you'd like to have some fun with me with my balloons!'
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.
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All in all what I try to say is that it doesn't matter who you are or what you're into, besides your fetish. Neither does it matter what kind of girl you're having a relationship/dating with. All that matters is just to be honest to her. Honesty is, I believe, the key to a successful relationship. Just ask her to come over, be comfortable with each other, and just tell her! Don't be ashamed of anything!
It's still easier said than done, but it is a lot less easy to live with you keeping your fetish to yourself. I've been in that fase for a very long time. Now I am happy to say that I have finally broken out of it!
.
.
.
.
.
With this story, I hope to have been helpful to the other male/female looners in this forum!
Thank for reading.
I already posted this elsewhere, but I thought it was worth sharing it here.
This is a true story that happened to me this year.
Just over four months ago, I met this girl online. I got to know her better over time and I went on a date with her eventually! All went well, luckily.
As weeks went by, we found ourselves, one night, talking about our 'exotic interests' on WhatsApp. I was hesitant at first to even talk about my fetish, so I tried to make subtle moves towards it, sometimes using a balloon emoticon and such. I eventually told her that there is a 'funny story behind that balloon', but I wasn't going to tell her until I would meet her again.
Then, out of the blue, she said: 'You have a balloon fetish'. I instantly felt my nerves getting to me and my hands really began to shake when she said that. I mean, she wasn't even serious about what she said, but only said it as a joke. I admitted eventually that I have a balloon fetish and I said she can block me if she wanted to. But rather, she was asking questions about it! ''How does it work? How do you view balloons? Do you pop them or something? What else do you do with them?'' I happily answered all her questions.
Eventually I asked her first reaction. She replied: ''Well, I have never even known anyone with a (balloon) fetish before, but neither do I see why that would make you less interesting. If you want to lie in a pile of balloons, then why don't you do that? I'd be happy to blow some balloons up for you!''
Right after she said that, I instantly felt the biggest relief I had had in a long time. My hands weren't shaking anymore and also instantly my love for her reached heights I have never had with any other girl I met in my life. We are now planning a date when no one's home here, so she can come over and have some loony fun with me!
For the first time in my life, I have found someone whom I feel comfortable with talking about my fetish. But what really made me fall in love with her even more, besides her personality, is because she is interested in my fetish.
I now am really confident, I found someone whom I can trustfully share my life with.
.
.
.
.
.
Really, telling her was the hardest thing you can imagine. I am the type of person who is very much in the metal music scene and such. So is she. So would you expect a fetish like this from someone like me? I mean, the last thing you would expect from a person like myself, is that I would have a balloon fetish. I listen to the darkest shit there's out there, like doom metal, black metal, thrash metal, etc. And from all the carnage of goat's blood and guitar shredding, there's long-haired me with a balloon fetish. I began to accept myself for who I am, but would anyone be willing to accept me for who I am? I always thought no. Turns out, I have never been more wrong in my entire life. She actually said my fetish is kinda cool and she doesn't think it makes me weird at all, only more fun!
So, for those males among us in this community, I really wanted to share this story! Actually telling her that you have a balloon fetish will make you feel uneasy about things at first. Thoughts racing through your mind, such as that she will break up with you and tell everyone about how weird you are. I was always really scared that would happen.
But in the end, what matters even more is that you're being honest with her, that you're being honest about how you feel and that you're being honest about how you feel with her. Just ask her to come over or just ask her to have a moment to talk with you.
Of course, the possibility will always be there for some women to be creeped out by your fetish and will even choose leave you. When that happens? So be it. Trust me, being with someone who is not prepared to live with how you feel about stuff (i.e. your fetish) will never end up in a well functioning relationship. At least, not when you're already acquainted with her for some time, because you can't just walk up to a girl and be like: 'Hey, this is crazy and I just met you and all, but I have a balloon fetish and I was wondering if you'd like to have some fun with me with my balloons!'
.
.
.
.
.
All in all what I try to say is that it doesn't matter who you are or what you're into, besides your fetish. Neither does it matter what kind of girl you're having a relationship/dating with. All that matters is just to be honest to her. Honesty is, I believe, the key to a successful relationship. Just ask her to come over, be comfortable with each other, and just tell her! Don't be ashamed of anything!
It's still easier said than done, but it is a lot less easy to live with you keeping your fetish to yourself. I've been in that fase for a very long time. Now I am happy to say that I have finally broken out of it!
.
.
.
.
.
With this story, I hope to have been helpful to the other male/female looners in this forum!
Thank for reading.
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